Hmmm. This is tricky territory. I believe that what Elizabeth Gilbert describes isn't a soul mate, but a twin flame. Or it could be a karmic bond. Twin Flames act as a mirror and are often so intensely passionate that they become explosive. Both twin flames and karmic relationships serve to help us resolve karmic patterning by having our shadow reflected back to us so that we can work on our deep wounding. Whereas, I think a soul mate is a loving partner who is a spiritual equal, with whom one enjoys a complementary love and respect that comes relatively easily and flows smoothly. Soul mates stay by one another's side until the end and never stop loving each other.
But as you point out, there's no guarantee we'll meet our soul mate in this lifetime. Though I don't know whether I'll find a soul mate, I'll be happy to find someone kind and loving who treats me as a respected equal, with whom I can transcend past unhealthy patterns. I've had enough unearthing of my shadow to last more than one lifetime!
Yes, I'm also ready for the less catalytic, disruptive type of connection, and instead, would prefer someone who is primarily a good friend, spiritual companion and loving partner.
You bring up interesting perspectives. I married my soul mate. We had the instant connection you described (it felt like we knew each other in a past life) but as with any relationship, as the years press on, it’s about being on the same page, accepting the person for who they are, and always see them anew — remember why you fell in love. I believe he was/is meant to be part of my journey. He has influenced me in the best ways and I believe I’ve had a positive influence on him. Thankfully, we are both open to and believe in the importance of personal growth and development. We’ve both been in therapy, we meditate and we know the importance of communication.
Thanks for sharing your experience. How wonderful that you married your soul mate! and are still together! A mutual commitment to personal growth makes a big difference, and good communication is a must. I married my soul mate, however, our paths, interests and investment in the relationship shifted over the years and we drifted apart. We were married for twenty-four years. My granddaughter is one of the many blessings from our union.
Hmmm. This is tricky territory. I believe that what Elizabeth Gilbert describes isn't a soul mate, but a twin flame. Or it could be a karmic bond. Twin Flames act as a mirror and are often so intensely passionate that they become explosive. Both twin flames and karmic relationships serve to help us resolve karmic patterning by having our shadow reflected back to us so that we can work on our deep wounding. Whereas, I think a soul mate is a loving partner who is a spiritual equal, with whom one enjoys a complementary love and respect that comes relatively easily and flows smoothly. Soul mates stay by one another's side until the end and never stop loving each other.
But as you point out, there's no guarantee we'll meet our soul mate in this lifetime. Though I don't know whether I'll find a soul mate, I'll be happy to find someone kind and loving who treats me as a respected equal, with whom I can transcend past unhealthy patterns. I've had enough unearthing of my shadow to last more than one lifetime!
Yes, I'm also ready for the less catalytic, disruptive type of connection, and instead, would prefer someone who is primarily a good friend, spiritual companion and loving partner.
Agree with Gillian.
You bring up interesting perspectives. I married my soul mate. We had the instant connection you described (it felt like we knew each other in a past life) but as with any relationship, as the years press on, it’s about being on the same page, accepting the person for who they are, and always see them anew — remember why you fell in love. I believe he was/is meant to be part of my journey. He has influenced me in the best ways and I believe I’ve had a positive influence on him. Thankfully, we are both open to and believe in the importance of personal growth and development. We’ve both been in therapy, we meditate and we know the importance of communication.
Thanks for sharing your experience. How wonderful that you married your soul mate! and are still together! A mutual commitment to personal growth makes a big difference, and good communication is a must. I married my soul mate, however, our paths, interests and investment in the relationship shifted over the years and we drifted apart. We were married for twenty-four years. My granddaughter is one of the many blessings from our union.